Winning and Losing are two sides of the same coin.

Today when I was talking to one of my friend . We were discussing about the Competitions. How people do foolish things to just get the title of WON. People don't want to get ashamed by LOSING the game in the society.

That time , the person who was sitting next to us said one thing.

He said :- Always participate in competitions. what matters is give it your best. Don't afraid to want to win. If you win, treat your competitors with respect; they worked and tried as hard as you did. If you lose, walk with your head held high, with a smile on your face, and remind yourself that you did your very best.

---------------------------------------It's not always about Winning!-----------------------

Emotinal Attachment

Emotional Attachment

"......There's time to hold on

and time to let it go-

One thing is for sure, both can't happen......" 

 

One of the most common traps that we fall into in our relationships and life. Attachment makes us dependent on the people and things around us and makes us forget that we have natural self-esteem. It also makes it impossible to find true and lasting happiness.

To be attached is to believe there is something 'out there' that will make us happy. This could be anything - a job, money, a new startup , or winning a competition! Of course, it can also be another human being who we believe will make us happy. This is where our dependence on a partner comes from. Whatever the attachment is, it points to a need that we are trying to fulfill, and when this fails we feel hurt and begin to suffer.

As per my opinion- I believe that the Emotinal Attachment point starts from ... when we think that there is lacking something personally, when we fell being incomplete.We start to doubt and start assuming
that we need somebody or something else to make us feel complete and happy.At the core of our doubt is the belief that we are personally lacking in love and therefore start searching outside of us in the world.

The human mind is that the things we become attached to, are also our greatest gifts. In other words, we minimize our lives and become dependent in the very areas that we are experts! The conclusion from this finding is that we do not need to search for love in the people or situations around us. All of us are naturally gifted in love and have the ability to form successful and happy relationships. But we are also afraid of this greatest of gifts - and that is why we so easily become attached to people and material world. 

Life speed up as we get older and the memories shapes our past.

The memories tell the survivors story. Memory starts with beginning of the childhood days and goes on and on untill what we might remember just before we die .

I believe that Past story is a pretty good guide to what you will do tomorrow .

To know who you are as a person, you need to have some idea of who you have been.

Fear

It’s about fear. We are afraid of growing up, afraid of staying young. Afraid of our future, because we dont know what is going to happen ahead ? What good's and bad's are gonna come ? afraid of our past because we dont want that our bad past should once again come in front of us. Some of us are afraid of failure, some of us are afraid of success. Afraid of being too much or not enough. Some of us are scared we will not be brilliant or amazing or unique or rich or famous or inspiring or important or seen…or loved. We are afraid we will never find someone who will love us, unconditionally and some of us are afraid we will. Some of us are afraid of both. It’s these contradictions that can make life so confusing and scary and difficult to deal with it.

Unexpected well sunday spend..

 

Random plan always works.... I always wait for weekends...even i know that i wont be able to enjoy on weekends because of extra activities ( socialize ). But you know you get that relaxing moment oh....today its sunday...no office time...
Well, I had an amazing day spend with friends , tried new flavours , new dishes and lot more happened which indirectly motivated me...and finally ended a day with coffee and hot sizzling brownie....
Now need to plan for the coming week. Again same boring college are going to start....

Prayer. . .

Over the years, I have said many prayers to God and I haven't always gotten the answers I wanted...
When I was a little girl, Mom used to forcefully join my hands and on behalf me she used to say things to God....bcz at that time i was not knowing the actual meaning of prayer and its value...
When i was in high school, I prayed for my lost friend , to come back in my life,but it never happened..
Right now being in the final year of college, I pray to become a successful person and lots more goes back in mind....one wish then second and the list has no end....
I become selfish at this point.... I know its bad....

But,
What I learned from the unanswered questions is "What we most want isn't always What we most need ". We muddle through this world trying to find the purpose , love @nd a lot of more...

Losing my friend helped to open my heart to the love of many other people... 

Dream story !

 “Letting go of the past means that you can enjoy the dream that is happening right now."
                         

Amazing Story......

"Your Dreams Are Your Own and Bring Both Warnings and Gifts"

I grew up on a small cattle farm in the very small farming town of Savannah, Missouri with my grandfather and great grandparents.

My great grandmother used to sit outside on the back porch and string green beans or peel apples when the weather was mild, a worn dish towel over her knee and an ancient paring knife moving with practiced ease. As a very small child I would often sit with her, watching, and sometimes we would talk.

One Evening,
I asked if she had ever had something that she always wanted to do; a dream? She smiled and set down her work, leaned back and looked off across the farm for a moment, lost in thought.

She said that she had always wanted to see the ocean, to visit Hawaii, and see the Eiffel Tower. She had only seen these things in pictures and on TV, and they were beautiful to her. But she was scolded by relatives and friends for having such ideas and encouraged to put away these things that would never happen.

So she did.

Instead she got married, raised two children, tended the farm alongside her husband, and prepared every meal without complaint. She packed my lunches, took me to school every single day, sewed my dresses and Halloween costumes from scratch, and made me cinnamon pies.

She paid all the bills on time, did the grocery shopping, helped her community in any way she could, and was a very good wife, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother.

At her funeral the church overflowed; every seat was taken by lives she had touched, more stood in the vestibule and were forced out onto the sidewalk. She gave so much in her life while asking for nothing in return. She was an amazing woman, but I knew she never forgot her dream.

That one afternoon spent sitting with my great grandmother, watching her as she spoke with such warmth and sadness, stuck with me.

As I became older I turned the story over and over in my head like a coin because I instinctively knew its lesson had two sides, but I was only seeing one. After many years of inspection, I found the duality that her story contained: a warning and a gift.

The Warning: Make the choice to not let others dictate your dreams or goals.

 

Your dreams are yours, no matter how simple or small or large or complicated they may be, and you have a right to chase them at any point in your life, for any reason.

Do not give in to fear or uncertainty, do not doubt yourself, do not ask “Why? Why is this so important to me?” Your dreams are yours and yours alone, no one can take them from you and you should never give up on them.

The Gift: Make the choice to find happiness in your current path.

Sometimes, for some reason, we choose to walk away from what our heart wants. Maybe we make the choice out of necessity, maybe we do not really have a choice in the matter, maybe we did not realize what we wanted ’til it was too late, maybe we did not want to seem “weird” to our friends.
But life will always find a way to give you happiness, so be brave and keep yourself open to receive the joy that life is trying to give you.

My great grandmother never gave herself permission to go do what she had always wanted to do, even when she had the time and money to do so. But she decided to never be resentful of her choices, rather she chose to find new meaning and fulfillment in her situation.

Have the strength to attain dreams you think are out of your reach while allowing yourself to find peace when you do not follow your heart. Learn to succeed when others predict you will fail, and to laugh when you stumble or get lost.

Your dreams and your life are your own; never forget that.